Sound Sexier in the Sack

By Laura Snyder

Whether your lover is miles away or just in the next room, you can still share a steamy night together by putting that saucy tongue of yours to a new use -- by mastering the fine art of aural sex.
Tune Into Tone

Dirty talk doesn't delight if you sound like Fran Drescher. Lower the pitch of your voice a little and speak softly. The idea is to imitate how increased testosterone levels and lower oxygen levels make your voice sound when you're aroused.

Set the Mood
Even phone-sex operators don't just launch into x-rated dialogue, so casually transition your usual chit-chat into pillow talk. A good way to start is to express your desire for him or her, or by evoking the memories of an especially passionate romp you've shared before.

Learn the Lingo
Can't think of a good euphemism without sounding like a bad romance novelist? Use indirect words for particular body parts. As you get more comfortable with carnal conversation, think of more direct nouns. They don't have to be the medically accurate, but oh-so unappealing anatomical names. Take your cue from popular slang, literature or porn.

Paint a Mental Image
Use your knowledge of your partner's particular turn-ons. Even if your sweetie is looking right at you, tell him or her what you're wearing (or not wearing), what partner looks like (focusing on your favorite body parts) and what you'd like to be doing to each other to paint a vivid fantasy.

Listen Up
Get your partner to confess his or her most carnal desires, too, by asking questions. Example: "Would you like to touch my...?" You'll not only learn about what's arousing your partner most, but you can also subtly direct the conversation to suit your desires, be they kinky or romantic. Be a good listener, but don't go mute. Keep the conversation humming with plenty of affirming "mmm-hmms" and satisfied sighs.

Keep it Simple
You're trying to speak to the heart and groin, not win a poetry prize. As things heat up - and the blood starts vacating your head for a more southern neighborhood - keep your prose simple and explicit